Source : PERTHNOW NEWS
Nicole Kidman ignored warnings not to marry Tom Cruise because she was “madly in love”.
The 59-year-old actress wed her Days of Thunder co-star in 1990 when she was just 23 years old and though she was advised such a high-profile union ould overshadow her career, she didn’t care because she was so besotted and it felt like the “natural” thing to do.
She told Britain’s Vogue magazine: “I got married so young. Suddenly I was 22, 23 years old and I had this huge movie star husband. But it just seemed completely natural. We just fell madly in love and it was that simple.
“I remember people saying to me, ‘OK, well this is really going to affect your career.’ I’m like, ‘I don’t care. I’m in love. I want to be married.’
“And then I was his ‘wife’ and they were like, ‘See, we told you.’ I’m like, ‘So what? I wasn’t meant to marry the man I love? Of course I’ll throw my career away. I don’t care.’”
Nicole and Tom split in 2001 and she went on to marry Keith Urban in June 2006 before they split last year.
And the Practical Magic 2 actress – who has four children, two from each of her marriages – insisted going through one high-profile divorce didn’t prepare her for doing it again.
She said: “It’s all new. Every time!”
Nicole is still processing the end of her marriage to Keith because she has always taken a “feelings first” approach to life.
She said: “That’s just who I am. I don’t overthink things and I’m probably not that analytical. I’m far more feeling-centred and I lead with my heart. I just go, ‘OK, what do I feel here? I’ll give it a go.’ It throws people, because I think they think I’ll be far more measured and I’m not.
“I can still approach things intellectually, but my desire is not to be ruled by my head.
“I’ve always wanted to live a well-examined life, so what does that entail? Trying things, making mistakes, failing, getting back up, moving on, embracing love, staying open, keeping the heart open and the possibilities.”
The Big Little Lies star admitted she felt “very fearful and deeply vulnerable” in the wake of her second divorce because she knows she won’t have the future she planned, but she’s now looking to the future with optimism.
She said: “At the same time I’m like, ‘OK, I didn’t expect this. I had a different view of what my life was going to be, but this is what it is now.’ You make all these plans and you have all these ideas of what it’s all going to be like and then it’s… not. You have to adjust. You adapt. The future, it’s completely unknown to me right now. Strange.
“There was a point where I was very fearful and deeply vulnerable,” she replies, “which is exposing. And then at the same time [I’m] going, “Well, I can either really not confront it and just curl up, or I can just go forward with an enormous amount of hope.”
