Source : PERTHNOW NEWS
Sara Bareilles “wrestled” with not knowing if she could have children amid fertility struggles.
The 46-year-old singer and her 44-year-old husband, actor Joe Tippett, have spent the last three years trying to conceive, with Sara undergoing IVF “a few times” without success, regularly having her blood drawn and hormone levels checked, and now turning to an “egg donor” as the “next phase” of their fertility journey.
But she had no idea how difficult the fertility process would be when they started and found little information about people going through similar troubles.
On the latest episode of The Zach Sang Show, Sara said: “I really wrestled because I found so little material out in the world of people talking about their fertility struggles.
“I found a lot of evidence of people talking about how hard it was to get pregnant once they had a healthy baby in their arms, but I didn’t find a lot of people talking; it’s not that there’s none, but I didn’t find a lot of people talking from the sort of like messy middle.”
The Love Song hitmaker thinks the limited information is because it can be “so uncomfortable and so hard to sit in the unknown” of whether one is going to have children.
Sara added: “And it’s like a fundamental, a profound question that I am trying to answer for myself in my little life over here. Like, am I going to become a mother? I don’t know the answer.
“Are you f****** kidding me? Like, who wants to talk about that with everybody? But also, yeah, I want to talk about that with everybody because I don’t want to feel alone in it. And I can only imagine if I don’t want to feel alone in it, there’s a lot of people who also don’t want to feel alone.”
Sara then revealed the gruelling reality of fertility treatment and how demanding it can be.
The Gravity artist said: “The amount of time you spend in these clinics, and it’s like blood draws, and sometimes you’re going in three, four times a week, and they’re checking hormone levels, and you’re getting your medications, and you’re sticking yourself with needles, and you’re on these crazy drugs.”
Sara said a “sense of surrender and powerlessness” comes with undergoing fertility treatment.
She explained: “But the number of women I would encounter on any given day, just like little soldiers, just like coming in before they go to work, or not, or whatever, and just like doing the thing. And doing, it’s like that line, I’m just swimming where they tell me to until I can’t swim no more.
“Like that, there is this total sense of surrender and powerlessness that you just have to make peace with because this is not something that is entirely in my control.
“And no amount of money that I’m throwing at it, no amount of like it is just not entirely up to me how this looks. And that is so hard.”
